Happy Holidays, women of compassion! With Christmas just over the horizon nearing the last week of 2016, I hope you all can appreciate a great year of perseverance, hope and resilience. I also want to wish all of you an abundance of joy, peace, good health and prosperity the coming new year and beyond! This post is a bit different because I’m asking everyone to join me in sowing a bit of holiday cheer to my good friend and colleague, Ms. Evelyn Cogdell, who has been a bit under the weather these last months. Some of you might not know this, but Evelyn reached out to me in 2014 to ask if I’d like to collaborate with her on her new book. I gladly accepted and we had a blast.
On a recent conversation, however, I learned that book sales were a bit disappointing for this prolific author, which happens from time to time, but I know Evelyn is not as productive as she’d like to be. I believe in this book. It’s one of those undiscovered diamonds in the rough. The Essence of Romance is a little book of value that is gravely undervalued. It is in parts, witty, serious and informative and it holds some of “my” best work 🙂
If you’re in a serious relationship and you want to keep the flames burning brighter or even if you seek to start a flicker of a flame this holiday season going forward, you must grab a copy of this book! Help me to encourage Evelyn and bring a smile to this spirit filled warrior woman’s face this holiday season by purchasing a copy of The Essence of Romance at https://www.amazon.com/dp/0966489845/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_x_AmawybQ37MWVB or feel free to send tidings of joy and recovery to Evelyn in the comment section.
Always treat yourself special and remember,”Tis the season!”
Happy November, women warriors! I know you all know the importance of story. I know you get that we have a story inside of us that could possibly help to heal another or change a life. Perhaps, it’s the fear of the unknown or a fear of suddenly becoming known that is holding you back? My special guest today is an advocate for story. Monica Carter Tagore has authored or ghostwritten more than 45 books and she’s on a mission to help you become the author to your story. Please welcome Monica Carter Tagore to Authentic Woman.
Why your story deserves to be told
Monica Carter Tagore
It’s natural to want to pretend life has always been good.
But this pretense could be robbing you of your greatest service. You see, when you strip back the facade and let your authentic self show up, the story you share just may be the help and hope someone else needs. It may be what they have been searching or praying for.
I have been working for many years to help people find the lessons, blessings, messages, and big ideas in their stories, and to tell them in books. My work has taken on even more urgency this year, as I am now on a breast cancer healing journey. You see, as I looked at my own story, I knew I did not want to hold it tight and away from others. I wanted to share it, so any who desired, could learn or gain from it in some way.
I wrote an inspirational book as I was recovering from chemo and awaiting my mastectomy. That book, the soon-to-be-released Stronger: 31 Inspirational Messages to Get You Through That Tough Time, shares encouragement so readers see a way to keep striving, even in the face of adversity. This book came from my story, as I found inspirational messages so important.
But I am not unique. Each of us has a story, and within that story are lessons, blessings, and messages. For people who are able to see the lessons of their lives, then they have an opportunity — some might even say obligation — to share those lessons.
What you have been through, what you have endured, what you had to learn the hard way matters. You matter. And somebody needs to hear from you so they can get the inspiration, insight, and information they need to keep moving forward. You hold that within your story.
Now, it will take a touch of bravery to do this. After all, sharing your lessons means being willing to share your folly. Your mistakes. Your bad decisions.
Not everybody wants to do that. But if you are willing to share with others the times when your life wasn’t as good as it is now, then it’s time to tell your story. Your story deserves to be told so others can gain knowledge, inspiration, and insight from it.
So how do you do that?
- Write a book. Writing a book is a wonderful way to be able to make your experiences count. While there may have been other books written about your topic, none has been written on your experience and with your perspective. In other words, your book hasn’t been written. How you present your experiences and what you learned may be what reaches someone. You may do it in such a way as to shed new light on a subject or connect with your reader in a way others who have written on your topic have not been able to do. There may be people you can reach with your story who may not be able to be reached or helped by anyone else. If you don’t share your story, they may not get the help they need.
- Speaking on your topic may be another way to share your story and touch lives. Speaking may be an intimidating activity, but don’t let the intimidation factor hold you back. Speaking can happen in several ways — from the stage, but also via podcasts, videos, webinars, etc. Choose the format that works for you and the message you want to share.
- Take to social media. Social media is an amazing use of technology that allows us to connect with others and touch lives all over the planet. Rather than simply sharing insignificant nothings via your social media accounts, maybe it’s time to share your story in updates. You don’t have to make the updates all about you. But you can share updates about statistics related to your experience, and share your insight on what these stats mean. You can share inspirational messages to encourage others dealing with the topic of your experience. You can share tips and strategies for facing the issue you are speaking about on social media.
- Starting a blog about your topic may be where your heart leads you. Your experience in dealing with the issue you discuss on the blog is your credibility. You are an expert because you dealt with this issue and overcame it or somehow got to a better point regarding it. Your blog can be a place where you share your story and share insight, coping strategies, and inspiration related to what you cover.
Nobody has to give you permission to share your story. You don’t have to be a celebrity. You don’t have to be wealthy in monetary terms. You don’t have to know everything there is to know about your topic. You are enough, just as you are. You have lived it. Now tell it. Someone else needs to hear it.
Monica Carter Tagore inspires and empowers people to see their true value. She does this in several ways, including the Chase Your Star newsletter and providing mentoring to help people tell their stories in book format. Get her free recording, “How to tell your story — and get noticed,” when you sign up for the Chase Your Star newsletter at http://monicacartertagore.com/newsletter
Thanks to Monica for sharing parts of her own inspirational story with us! If you are holding your story hostage, consider the importance of telling your story and be that rainbow. Will see y’all back here in December:)
We have to be brave when we speak our truths…Clara Freeman
Hello courageous women of authenticity! I need to post my whereabouts to all of you-my faithful friends and readers of the world who look forward to stopping by Authentic Woman for inspiration, a safe place to land and to share your truths. My truth is that I’m in hiding. I’m in hiding because I have no words for what is happening in our world today . I’m in hiding from all of the senseless violence that is occurring and the bias and apathy that runs rampant among America’s people and those called peacemakers.
I’m left speechless by the plague that follows America’s history well into the 21st century! I’m ashamed and embarrassed and so sick and tired of lives lost, racial rhetoric and excuses made for why what’s happening is happening. It’s time, no, it’s imperative that people get their minds right and face some ugly truths! Some of us harbor hatred in our hearts. In the 21st century, we are still rooting for the good ole days of Jim Crow’s separation of the races, submissiveness and apathy in the face of injustice, racial profiling, murder of people of color, killing of white police officers in retaliation( unclothed truths) that are overlooked and not talked about or addressed. This is the time to put an end to this racial divide and injustice!
I’m in hiding because I’m sick and tired of people placing blame on one group as opposed to another group. I’m in hiding because I refuse to speak with a forked tongue. Let America’s all America rise up in truth and stop perpetuating the lies. Families have lost their loved ones. Little children have lost a parent, wives their husbands, husbands their wives and this takes precedence over skin color!
We have got to stop this madness. I have a grown son, a family man, who works everyday to support his children. My son drives while black. My son, like your son, life matters. The difference is, my son is more likely to be pulled over by one of those who have sworn to serve and protect. My son is a law abiding family man who respects his elders, doesn’t drink or carry a gun. He’s a proud, intelligent and independent black man and somehow, that seems to be a problem in America. This ugly mindset have to change. We have to do our part to make that happen. Use your gifts in whatever positive capacity to help bring about a positive world change for our children and the generations to come.
Even while being brutally beaten by white police officers, Rodney King believed in the beauty of a people’s respect for one another. Why can’t we put aside this ugly way of living? In the words of Rodney King,“Can’t we all just get along?”
I apologize to my beautiful family of Authentic Woman followers (of every ethnicity) but my truth is… I’m outraged and I’m in hiding from all of social media until I pray myself to healing and recovery.
Keep love in your heart for all God’s people and always treat yourself special. Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices, will be available soon!
AIN’T I A WOMAN?
by Sojourner Truth
Women’s Convention in Akron, Ohio~1851
Well, children, where there is so much racket there must be something out of kilter. I think that ‘twixt the negroes of the South and the women at the North, all talking about rights, the white men will be in a fix pretty soon. But what’s all this here talking about?
That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain’t I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain’t I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man – when I could get it – and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen most all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother’s grief, none but Jesus heard me! And ain’t I a woman?
Then they talk about this thing in the head; what’s this they call it? [member of audience whispers, “intellect”] That’s it, honey. What’s that got to do with women’s rights or negroes’ rights? If my cup won’t hold but a pint, and yours holds a quart, wouldn’t you be mean not to let me have my little half measure full?
Then that little man in black there, he says women can’t have as much rights as men, ’cause Christ wasn’t a woman! Where did your Christ come from? Where did your Christ come from? From God and a woman! Man had nothing to do with Him.
If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these women together ought to be able to turn it back , and get it right side up again! And now they is asking to do it, the men better let them.
Obliged to you for hearing me, and now old Sojourner ain’t got nothing more to say.
Enjoy your day! Stay in gratitude and pay homage to those who sacrificed for our freedom: