Great Leaders: What Makes Them Special?

“Today a reader tomorrow a leader” Margaret Fuller

Great Leaders What Makes Them Special?

Many who should be leaders are afraid to step up and become what they know in the bosoms of their existence, is their supernatural calling. It’s so much easier to remain followers. I don’t believe leaders are born, I think they are made to see things differently than others. I think leaders ‘see’ what others can’t even fathom.

What makes an effective, trusted and respected leader? What makes them special? There are the obvious dynamics of course; learning from life experiences, discipline, a strong work ethic and a core belief system. These core values stem from parental upbringing, environmental and behavioral observations and institutional learning, some of which are carried into adulthood.I learned morals, empathy, perseverance, faith and compassion from my mother. I learned to appreciate value of hard work and the almighty dollar from my dad. Daddy used to say as long as you work, you’re never broke. If daddy was alive today, he’d get a loving adult daughter rebuttal on that one:) We all have an affinity for learning from our parents who are our first teachers and more often than not, we tend to accept these lessons as truth.

As leaders age, there’s a tendency to not go along with the status quo as easily. Where the degree or certification is viewed as a prerequisite to great leadership advantages by most, those who lead know that book sense and common sense are not always interchangeable and so they might consider an alternative and forge ahead to discover their own truths. If you’re a team player who is a follower in medicine, technology, the arts or any area of your living, and you carry an overwhelming desire to lead others in your heart; a desire to making something from nothing or make an impact in the lives of others, now is the time to believe in yourself and do what you feel you were created to do. Step away from the sameness and do that great thing you’ve always wanted to do. Trust and believe someone is waiting for you to lead the charge.

Leadership Qualities:

When you practice the golden rule of treating people the way you want to be treated, in business and in your personal life, you earn trust and belief from those looking to be a part of a winning team. To be an effective leader you must leave your ego at the door. Leaders don’t use their power to lord over or to belittle others. A true leader doesn’t use their power to abuse or demean; but to uplift, encourage and invoke creative solutions to challenging problems.

Don’t be aggressive in your leadership or quick to anger. Instead practice assertive decorum and lead by example. Don’t mix business with pleasure or give your employees ammunition to disrespect your leadership. Steve Harvey wrote a scolding and scorching letter to his employees recently, berating them for approaching him, whenever. Perhaps if he’d initiated a policy and procedure manual upon hiring, mandated to all of his employees, they might have gotten the memo that Mr. Harvey wasn’t their ‘ride and die’ but their employer. You show people how you want to be treated.

The more you know, the more you grow in the role of a leader. The visionaries, motivators and innovators in leadership positions are often led by their desire to see greatness in others and are willing to teach others what they have learned. If you have been sabotaging your leadership abilities because you are afraid of failure or even success in your new role, now’s the time to stop the madness of negativity and fear. Step out on faith and keep going. If you fail, try again and if you fail again, keep trying until you’ve given it all you got. Nothing hurts worse than never giving ‘U’ a chance.

Sometimes You Don’t Want The Responsibility

I spent over 30 years in a leadership position during my nursing career. There were many times I felt that I didn’t want the headache. Through trial and error of coping and strategizing on how to handle people attitudes and sensibilities, I got better at what I called my lot in life. I settled into my calling and people took notice. Over the years, I’ve spoken to patients and their family members, women and male co-workers seeking advice or a listening ear. I became someone I never asked to become…mentor, advisor, confidant, encourager and motivator.

I’ve always been sensitive to the needs of children, not only because I’m a mother, but because children are innocent and look to adults for their protection and unconditional love. I’ve advocated for the safety of children on the school grounds and in gang infested neighborhoods… I’ve sat in awe of the elder wisdom as I’ve bathed them and dressed their wounds, sat at their bedside to hear their stories of happiness and regret. I’ve heard about their childhoods, marriages and their love for nature and music. I’ve heard the unspoken yearning for human connection in their aged voices. No woman is an island and so we have to love ourselves enough. We have to choose our battles wisely, where our voices reach the furthest.

Women of a certain age were the catalyst for Authentic Woman in 2008. I wanted a place where women could share their stories and speak their truths. It was a mirror to the reflection of our younger selves who were quickly growing into our older selves. In writing, talking , hosting and connecting with women, the dynamic of the woman voice changed. Women from all over the world, every ethnicity and every age stop by here, either to read, comment, or grab an email address to share concerns and seek help in making an informed decision. I’ve welcomed every voice!

I don’t want to change my blog’s message. I wanted to extend the longevity of Authentic Woman and so I wrote Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices as an invitation to all women who want to share in the woman journey. This is a book from authentic life lessons, interactions with other women voices and from my heart on life challenges and its triumphs. I hope you consider reading Unleash Your Pearls, while I’m away. Contact me at-unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com. My Authentic Woman Story eBook is available at https://www.amazon.com/author/clarafreeman. Do pick up a copy as a preamble to Unleash Your Pearls.

I send blessings to all of you and hope that you live your happy. I look forward to reading your comments and encourage you on your mission journey. I know you will make a positive impact in the minds and hearts of others.Because my journey has brought me to other avenues to explore in the phase of my living, I will be taking an indefinite leave from my blogs. I won’t leave social media entirely, but , for now, this is my final posting at Authentic Woman. My goal is to continue to do work that brings awareness and help empower the voiceless.

May you all find your happy

Clara B, Freeman

xoxo

 

Mother Earth~”Medicine For Your Soul”

The medicine for my suffering I have within me.” Bruce Lee.

Good Monday Morning, women of the earth! It’s been too long, but I’ve been living in a whirlwind since my new book came out. Marketing, promoting, sending out signed copies and thanking folks who became buyers. I’m basically spreading the good news about the book’s message, championing women voices. When your book finally launches, trust and believe, your work is just beginning. I’ve also been serving on a few other book projects that I will share with all of you at a later date. Trust me, I’ve been doing meaningful work:)

I hope you all gave a nod to the need to protect our environment on April 22nd in appreciation of Earth Day. It was a beautiful Saturday for birdwatchers, bikers, spring gardeners, music lovers and lovers strolling hand in hand in the park. It was a great day to celebrate the vast magnificence that is Mother Earth. I always find healing in her beauty, fierceness and tranquility. When you are stressed from the busyness of activities of daily living, embrace nature and you will feel refreshed, replenished and refocused on your purpose for being.

The view from my balcony…

Mother Earth is medicine for your soul.  She awakens you to spirit and keeps you grounded. Listen and she will reveal the truths of who you are. In the presence of nature, you envision your best and most productive self. When my mind is quiet, I’m open to the intuitive messages from the universe. It’s so pleasant being in this space of serene presence that is something greater than ourselves. When I lived in the suburbs of Chicago, I loved to watch raindrops splattering on city sidewalks outside my windows. The fresh smell of a country rain, connecting with the soil of god’s green earth caused happy endorphins to play tag in my brain, as a girl growing up in the South.

Birds. Bees. Flowers and Trees. Oh My!

I love to sit quietly on a cabin dock somewhere to look out at the sun-glistened waters of a brooding lake, its silent waves shimmering ripples of magic before my eyes. I love walking in the early mornings on a quiet city street while a world sleeps and mother nature’s fresh coating of pristine snow blankets the ground, welcoming my steps as the first footprints to the day. Yes, I really walked to work in the city after the snowstorms of 2012 as a world slept. It would be just me, the silent skies and white snow blanketing the streets and sidewalks leading to the facility where I worked as a nurse.

The view outside my window… 

There’s a saying, “You can take the girl out of the country but you can’t take the country out of the girl.” So true! I love that I was introduced to the simplicity of country living as a girl. There’s so much good that comes from the experience, regardless of all the was bad (which led to another point of my advocacy) Living country life humbles you. You notice and revel in the trivial things. You know that real beauty comes from Mother Nature and you’re not bothered about the artificial things people accumulate to make them happy. For me, happiness is simple and can be found within yourself and by spending time and making lasting memories with loved ones and close friends; by doing work you love and by giving back to those less fortunate. Sowing seeds of compassion and purpose is like bare hands feeling the rich soil from the fields of mother earth.

When You Are Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired:

On those days, when you find yourself feeling defeated and powerless and just sick and tired of being sick and tired, I urge you to seek understanding from a beloved elder or spiritual mentor. Pray. Step out on that beloved Serenity Prayer and know that we must accept the things we cannot change, change the things we can and be wise enough to know the difference. We must understand that no man, woman or child is an island…that we need to reach out in love and compassion… build a bridge, become a village, unleash your pearls, find your voice and speak out against injustice. Bring to the forefront the hatred and stereotypical behaviors borne of ignorance and preconceived notions. Bring awareness and hold people accountable. Ultimately, we must recognize that we have a purpose for being.

In Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices, I share a story about how as children, my siblings and I were told by our parents that if we uncovered an oyster nestled in the mud along the shallow edges of the riverbank, not from our home, we could open it and find a beautiful pearl nestled inside. You can bet my siblings and I carried out this mission for a long time:) always believing we’d find that oyster. It was a lesson in motivation and persistence from our parents that I use in my personal and professional life today. The world in these trying times should take heed from that tale and keep looking and working for the positives in life and persist in the convictions to make life better and inclusive for all.

When the road on your journey to sharing your purpose narrows and becomes too overwhelming, remember the above quote from Bruce Lee, “the medicine for my suffering I have within me.” Immerging yourself in the ambiance of god’s earthly offerings is the icing on the cake to your continued good health and wellbeing.

If you’d like a signed copy of Unleash Your Pearls, contact me via the blog or email unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com

Always treat yourself special!

Unleash Your Pearls:What Some Readers Are Saying-

Happy Spring, women warriors! So, I finally unpacked my new computer. It’s been languishing in a box since Christmas and I’m experiencing a few bumps in the road getting it set up. I was also having separation issues about abandoning my old computer. It’s been my trusted companion for the last 8 years. Okay, so it’s a bit dated, people:) but, very reliable up until a few weeks ago when it began to drag, cough and sputter; losing its oomph right before my eyes. Sadly, it was time for both of us to face the reality of change; can you say retirement?

My trusted computer friend and I have been thru the thick and thin of it, and it’s still hard to say good-bye (sigh)

The Good News!

Most of us know the anxiety of making that publishing transition from “writer” to “author” upon completion of our books. It’s the full on awareness that we have to put on this unfamiliar hat where we call the shots in the marketing, distribution and sale of our products that can be daunting.  Shortly after the release of my book, the experience of finally getting to another level of my work and getting published set the tone for feelings of accomplishment, joy, worry and instances of second guessing myself.

My joyful moments were becoming marred by worry and it was frustrating. I lamented over getting good reviews and wondered if my book was going to sell. The one thing a new author should never worry about is their book’s message, however, because what you want to convey to your readers should be apparent before you release your pearls.

In all of this author madness, my woman empowered message remains clear because I am clear on my purpose mission for writing Unleash Your Pearls…you gotta read it to get that!

The reality in the book world is that not every reader is going to sing your praises and what you, the author have to do, is let go, let God and keep-a-going; per the late Ms.Gwendolyn Brooks evergreen writing advice. I was elated and humbled when I read some remarks from early readers about Unleash Your Pearls. I was also motivated to continue marketing my book from a place of authenticity and truth.

Recent Reader Responses:

“Loved the encouragement to have faith in yourself and learn to speak up. I had to do that myself.” K. Woods.

“Makes good points; regardless of sex.” From a male’s perspective who gave the book a thumbs up.

“Oh, my god what a good book! I am so proud of you. I hope many women get a hold of this book. It is as if women have been waiting for a book like this.” (life mentor) J. Eubanks

“I’m sure this will be a great book.” CONGRATULATIONS! (another male voice)

“This Is A Book That Every Woman of Purpose Should Have.” C. Miller

I’m feeling encouraged as I encourage all women (and men) to honor your calling, become the champion of your own authentic voice and Unleash Your Pearls. In the next few days I’ll be honoring purchase requests, following up with distribution resources and researching other book promotional avenues , while grooving fully in the moments of becoming a new “boss” author on the rise:)

To purchase or reserve your copy of Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices, email unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com

Next month, I’ll also be addressing avenues for book distribution, promotions and sales on Clara’s writers blog. If you’d like to join me in this discussion, email me your thoughts. (both seasoned and new authors input welcome) because we’re all in this publishing thing together:)

Always treat yourself special.

 

 

Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices Is Finally Here!

Good Monday Morning, women of purpose! I’ve been busy this last week, sending out signed copies of my new empowerment book for women. Yes, people, after a long year in waiting, Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices is finally released. Yay! I’m on great grandma duties as well, while trying to get this post out. It’s a feat that truly takes a bit of creative maneuvering because right now the child, who is fighting a cold, has toppled her toy box, refused to eat her breakfast and requests Apple Juice instead of Orange because OJ hurts her three year old tummy. “Gram Gram, I said no!” Bear with me as I’m also trying to work out the kinks for online purchases, but if you’d like a personal signed copy in time for Women’s History Month? Use the convenient contact form or email me for details.

16864732_1811490049068448_5434373568282161503_n We’re off to such a great start, however, thanks in part to the support of my Lil sister,Connie Faye Miller, who sent out an SOS on fb and received such wonderful and loving support from her tribe of followers; including church peeps, sistah friends and even folks from our hometown. I see you Florine 🙂 I’ve just had a batch sent out this morning and I thank everyone for their interest and support. My one wish is that women and the men who love and support them, will read Unleash Your Pearls and receive from its pages a bit of encouragement, inspiration and motivation that allows them to unleash their pearls!

There is a story behind the title of the book that was my original intent to share with y’all, but because I’m led to write from the heart today, I will leave that particular book spoiler ( I relate the story in the book) for another monthly post. But, hopefully, y’all will have secured your copy just in time for Women’s History Month and read the story for yourself:) Send purchase inquiries to unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com or clarawriter@att.net

More perks from the pages of Unleash Your Pearl Empowering Women’s Voices:

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“Gram-Gram I’m hungry!”

“Coming!”

Remember to always treat yourself special.

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What People Must Do To Repair Broken~Trust

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“The greatness of America is the right to protest for right” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Happy Monday, women warriors! Today marks the celebration and 88th birthday of our nation’s most iconic civil rights leader, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Dr. King and other distinguished leaders such as John Lewis, Jessie Jackson, Rev.  Ralph Abernathy, Andrew Young, Harry Belafonte and a host of civil rights activists spent their lives fighting against segregation, Jim Crow Laws and racial hate and injustice in their efforts to end discrimination and racial unrest among America’s people.  So, in honor of this great man and all that he stood for, I wonder what better way to honor the legacy of Dr. King and the men and women who fought and died for the rights of all, than to proclaim our rights as citizens of The United States Of America… use our platform and our voices to shine a spotlight on injustice, bring awareness and encourage communication and accountability with the common goal of implementing a resurgence of the change that will bring about a greater, inclusive America for all? It’s good that more celebs are using their platforms to help demand accountability and bring positive change. The great news is you don’t have to be famous to make your voice heard and make a difference.

Racism and race division is old news, worn like a ragged pair of socks that keeps turning up in the rinse and repeat wash cycle.  If we want a better world for ourselves, our families and future generations, we have to stand together and fight the great fight to overturn racism and hatred like the great leaders of days gone by. Racism is alive and thriving, as evident by all of this social media race division brought to light during a contingent new election process where a man who literally speaks from a tongue laced with acidic narratives and race baiting innuendoes will become America’s next president, bringing within his administration, people whose backgrounds are questionable and perplexing to the masses.

On this day going forward, let us focus on repairing the ills of a daunting 2016, deemed as the year of distrust, tragedy and protest  by implementing personal, spiritual and professional growth through communication, conversation and understanding . Although we can never forget the loss of life in the past year, let’s work on forgiving those who trespass against us, embrace those who stand with us and refuse to back down from those who wrongly oppose us. Let’s look within ourselves to find that moral compass that governs our humanity where we show empathy and compassion for our fellow-man/woman.

In order for the world to heal and repair America’s broken people, we must forgive and keep standing. “When they go low, we go high.”  First lady Michelle Obama.

These are my thoughts, written in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King’s birthday on what people must do in this environment of division and distrust, in order to repair, grow and heal in 2017. I invite your input.

Keep Ascending!

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Sowing Seeds Of Holiday Cheer!

Happy Holidays, women of compassion! With Christmas just over the horizon nearing the last week of 2016, I hope you all can appreciate a great year of perseverance, hope and resilience. I also want to wish all of you an abundance of joy, peace, good health and prosperity the coming new year and beyond! This post is a bit different because I’m asking everyone to join me in sowing a bit of holiday cheer to my good friend and colleague, Ms. Evelyn Cogdell, who has been a bit under the weather these last months. Some of you might not know this, but Evelyn reached out to me in 2014 to ask if I’d like to collaborate with her on her new book. I gladly accepted and we had a blast.

On a recent conversation, however, I learned that book sales were a bit disappointing for this prolific author, which happens from time to time, but I know Evelyn is not as productive as she’d like to be. I believe in this book. It’s one of those undiscovered diamonds in the rough. The Essence of Romance is a little book of value that is gravely undervalued. It is in parts, witty, serious and informative and it holds some of “my” best work 🙂

If you’re in a serious relationship and you want to keep the flames burning brighter or even if you seek to start a flicker of a flame this holiday season going forward, you must grab a copy of this book! Help me to encourage Evelyn and bring a smile to this spirit filled warrior woman’s face this holiday season by purchasing a copy of The Essence of Romance at https://www.amazon.com/dp/0966489845/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_x_AmawybQ37MWVB or feel free to send tidings of joy and recovery to Evelyn in the comment section.

Always treat yourself special and remember,”Tis the season!”

The Essence of Romance

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“From The Experts,” Special Guest Monica Carter Tagore

Happy November, women warriors! I know you all know the importance of story. I know you get that we have a story inside of us that could possibly help to heal another or change a life. Perhaps, it’s the fear of the unknown or a  fear of suddenly becoming known that is holding you back? My special guest today is an advocate for story. Monica Carter Tagore has authored or ghostwritten more than 45 books and she’s on a mission to help you become the author to your story. Please welcome Monica Carter Tagore to Authentic Woman.

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Why your story deserves to be told

Monica Carter Tagore

It’s natural to want to pretend life has always been good.

But this pretense could be robbing you of your greatest service. You see, when you strip back the facade and let your authentic self show up, the story you share just may be the help and hope someone else needs. It may be what they have been searching or praying for.

I have been working for many years to help people find the lessons, blessings, messages, and big ideas in their stories, and to tell them in books. My work has taken on even more urgency this year, as I am now on a breast cancer healing journey. You see, as I looked at my own story, I knew I did not want to hold it tight and away from others. I wanted to share it, so any who desired, could learn or gain from it in some way.

I wrote an inspirational book as I was recovering from chemo and awaiting my mastectomy. That book, the soon-to-be-released Stronger: 31 Inspirational Messages to Get You Through That Tough Time, shares encouragement so readers see a way to keep striving, even in the face of adversity. This book came from my story, as I found inspirational messages so important.

But I am not unique. Each of us has a story, and within that story are lessons, blessings, and messages. For people who are able to see the lessons of their lives, then they have an opportunity — some might even say obligation — to share those lessons.

What you have been through, what you have endured, what you had to learn the hard way matters. You matter. And somebody needs to hear from you so they can get the inspiration, insight, and information they need to keep moving forward. You hold that within your story.

Now, it will take a touch of bravery to do this. After all, sharing your lessons means being willing to share your folly. Your mistakes. Your bad decisions.

Not everybody wants to do that. But if you are willing to share with others the times when your life wasn’t as good as it is now, then it’s time to tell your story. Your story deserves to be told so others can gain knowledge, inspiration, and insight from it.

So how do you do that?

  1. Write a book. Writing a book is a wonderful way to be able to make your experiences count. While there may have been other books written about your topic, none has been written on your experience and with your perspective. In other words, your book hasn’t been written. How you present your experiences and what you learned may be what reaches someone. You may do it in such a way as to shed new light on a subject or connect with your reader in a way others who have written on your topic have not been able to do. There may be people you can reach with your story who may not be able to be reached or helped by anyone else. If you don’t share your story, they may not get the help they need.
  2. Speaking on your topic may be another way to share your story and touch lives. Speaking may be an intimidating activity, but don’t let the intimidation factor hold you back. Speaking can happen in several ways — from the stage, but also via podcasts, videos, webinars, etc. Choose the format that works for you and the message you want to share.
  3. Take to social media. Social media is an amazing use of technology that allows us to connect with others and touch lives all over the planet. Rather than simply sharing insignificant nothings via your social media accounts, maybe it’s time to share your story in updates. You don’t have to make the updates all about you. But you can share updates about statistics related to your experience, and share your insight on what these stats mean. You can share inspirational messages to encourage others dealing with the topic of your experience. You can share tips and strategies for facing the issue you are speaking about on social media.
  4. Starting a blog about your topic may be where your heart leads you. Your experience in dealing with the issue you discuss on the blog is your credibility. You are an expert because you dealt with this issue and overcame it or somehow got to a better point regarding it. Your blog can be a place where you share your story and share insight, coping strategies, and inspiration related to what you cover.

Nobody has to give you permission to share your story. You don’t have to be a celebrity. You don’t have to be wealthy in monetary terms. You don’t have to know everything there is to know about your topic. You are enough, just as you are. You have lived it. Now tell it. Someone else needs to hear it.

 

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Monica Carter Tagore inspires and empowers people to see their true value. She does this in several ways, including the Chase Your Star newsletter and providing mentoring to help people tell their stories in book format. Get her free recording, “How to tell your story — and get noticed,” when you sign up for the Chase Your Star newsletter at http://monicacartertagore.com/newsletter

 

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Thanks to Monica for sharing parts of her own inspirational story with us! If you are holding your story hostage,  consider the importance of telling your story and be that rainbow. Will see y’all back here in December:)

 

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