I was thinking about the age of technology and how far we’ve come as a country with this “techno” stuff. But, I’m also looking at this wave of communication with the usage of internet emails, text messages , Facebook, Twitter and so forth as an end to the plain ole art of conversation . Recently, I asked my daughter who has a cousin around her age & who has always been her best bud, how her cousin was doing. My daughter’s reply “Mom, I don’t know, we haven’t talked in a while because “she” always want to text. I’m too busy& rarely have the time to text her back!”
I’ve always been a letter writer. In the early days of leaving home, I’d write letters to my family members nearly every week. My mom, especially would get letters from me on a regular basis. She would promptly send a reply,even though we spoke by telephone as well.Over the years, the letter writing ceased as life intervened. I’d call more than write now and felt that was being a good & obedient long-distance daughter. But, in one of my mom’s letters, she addressed the fact that I had stopped writing to her! I didn’t realize how connected my mom felt to me via those hand written letters and so I would write those letters my mom so looked forward to receiving.
Sadly,the idea of letter writing has become a distant memory now… I hardly ever write letters. I’m so programmed with the telephone and email conversations. My brother explains it this way.”She doesn’t call me, she emails me!” When did we get away from the shared intimacy and common comradarie of family, friendship and good ole fashioned conversation? The convenience of telephones, faxes, emails and all of this new age in technology is what we as a nation have become. I’m a country girl by heart and fact. I was raised in a family who gathered around the table for “table talk”. I miss those days and I’m vowing to carry on this tradition with my daughter/son/grandchildren and all other folk somewhere in the vicinity.
I like to think we’ll find our way back to the basics of good ole fashioned one on one, or group of folks having grand conversations that doesn’t just occur during the Holidays…
Women of authenticity, let’s have a conversation!
- Texting not Talking – The Loss of Confrontation Skills (hackingchristianity.net)