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Make An Effort: Forming New Relationships

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

Good Monday Morning, Visionary Women! So, I have a small request to ask of you. My thoughts for this new year 2016 are geared toward making an effort to form new relationships. 2016 should be the year of human connection where we make an effort to get to know somebody outside of our comfort zone. We could use the hashtag #forming newrelationships, for online connections via social media. It’s way past time to step out from the bubble of sameness to reach out and offer your hand in human connection to another person. It’s hard to put yourself out there to meet new people, I know. I’m as shy and introverted as they come, so, I get it 🙂 but honey, life is meant to be lived to the fullest and that means we have to be willing to engage with other folks of all age, races and caliber.


When you make an effort to step outside of your norm, your efforts will empower you with confidence and give you a new attitude about the one life you’re blessed to live. And who knows,your dialogue might just start a movement to help bring a people awareness where they’re no longer the bystander, witnessing the continuation of a country’s’ great divide, but a voice of reason who offers kindness and compassion to others. Who can know what’s beyond the realm of your mediocre people connection if you never put yourself out there to cultivate new friendships, relationships and new ideas and conversations?

“Reach out and touch somebody’s hand make this world a better place if you can.” Diana Ross


Social Media for online users connect people from all over the world, via twitter, fb, pinterest, good-reads, blogs and websites and that’s a great thing, because I’ve met many folks I call my internet highway friends this way. But forming new friendships, business relationships and even the romantic online liaison doesn’t take the place of face to face connections. And not everyone is internet savvy, even in 2016, so connecting face to face i the bet way to meet and bond with new folk. If you’re shy or overly cautious and don’t feel you can approach another person in conversation. Make it easy on yourself by attending places where a lot of like minded people gather.

Places to make a people connection:


Parks and bike trails,

Community gathering


Writer Conferences

Parents meet & greet at school functions

Book & Poetry readings

As a volunteer at hospital and nursing homes

Neighborhood Watch meetings

Your next door neighbors~

There are many places you can go to make new relationships that will enrich your life and the lives of those strangers who could become friends. Now that you have an idea where to meet other people, outside of your comfort zone, I’ve also included resources that can inform and guide you in your decision to make an effort to form new relationships:

Making and Keeping Friends: A Self-Help Guide issued by the Department of Health and Human Services.

Getting to know you getting to know all about you. Getting to like you getting to hope you like me.”

Deborah Kerr & Yul Brenner in The King and I

Thanks a billion for your friendships, support and conversations. Remember to always treat yourself special!




2 thoughts on “Make An Effort: Forming New Relationships”

  1. Hey Clara, I have been doing that but I think I’m going to be more cognizant of forming new relationship going forward. It is great to meet people from other walks of life with similar interests. When you get down to it, we are more alike than we think.

    And for overly shy people, I would recommend The creator made cards to help you overcome rejection and one card tells you to speak to someone on the bus stop. That’s one of the simplest actions you can take that can lead to great results.


  2. Hi Marcie,Thanks for adding to the conversation. I think it’ more important than ever to step out and meet newfound friends, colleague and if single, perhaps that significant someone. I agree, it’s all in taking that first step for the shy and introverted. Thanks for the link.


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