Happy November, women warriors! I know you all know the importance of story. I know you get that we have a story inside of us that could possibly help to heal another or change a life. Perhaps, it’s the fear of the unknown or a fear of suddenly becoming known that is holding you back? My special guest today is an advocate for story. Monica Carter Tagore has authored or ghostwritten more than 45 books and she’s on a mission to help you become the author to your story. Please welcome Monica Carter Tagore to Authentic Woman.
Why your story deserves to be told
Monica Carter Tagore
It’s natural to want to pretend life has always been good.
But this pretense could be robbing you of your greatest service. You see, when you strip back the facade and let your authentic self show up, the story you share just may be the help and hope someone else needs. It may be what they have been searching or praying for.
I have been working for many years to help people find the lessons, blessings, messages, and big ideas in their stories, and to tell them in books. My work has taken on even more urgency this year, as I am now on a breast cancer healing journey. You see, as I looked at my own story, I knew I did not want to hold it tight and away from others. I wanted to share it, so any who desired, could learn or gain from it in some way.
I wrote an inspirational book as I was recovering from chemo and awaiting my mastectomy. That book, the soon-to-be-released Stronger: 31 Inspirational Messages to Get You Through That Tough Time, shares encouragement so readers see a way to keep striving, even in the face of adversity. This book came from my story, as I found inspirational messages so important.
But I am not unique. Each of us has a story, and within that story are lessons, blessings, and messages. For people who are able to see the lessons of their lives, then they have an opportunity — some might even say obligation — to share those lessons.
What you have been through, what you have endured, what you had to learn the hard way matters. You matter. And somebody needs to hear from you so they can get the inspiration, insight, and information they need to keep moving forward. You hold that within your story.
Now, it will take a touch of bravery to do this. After all, sharing your lessons means being willing to share your folly. Your mistakes. Your bad decisions.
Not everybody wants to do that. But if you are willing to share with others the times when your life wasn’t as good as it is now, then it’s time to tell your story. Your story deserves to be told so others can gain knowledge, inspiration, and insight from it.
So how do you do that?
- Write a book. Writing a book is a wonderful way to be able to make your experiences count. While there may have been other books written about your topic, none has been written on your experience and with your perspective. In other words, your book hasn’t been written. How you present your experiences and what you learned may be what reaches someone. You may do it in such a way as to shed new light on a subject or connect with your reader in a way others who have written on your topic have not been able to do. There may be people you can reach with your story who may not be able to be reached or helped by anyone else. If you don’t share your story, they may not get the help they need.
- Speaking on your topic may be another way to share your story and touch lives. Speaking may be an intimidating activity, but don’t let the intimidation factor hold you back. Speaking can happen in several ways — from the stage, but also via podcasts, videos, webinars, etc. Choose the format that works for you and the message you want to share.
- Take to social media. Social media is an amazing use of technology that allows us to connect with others and touch lives all over the planet. Rather than simply sharing insignificant nothings via your social media accounts, maybe it’s time to share your story in updates. You don’t have to make the updates all about you. But you can share updates about statistics related to your experience, and share your insight on what these stats mean. You can share inspirational messages to encourage others dealing with the topic of your experience. You can share tips and strategies for facing the issue you are speaking about on social media.
- Starting a blog about your topic may be where your heart leads you. Your experience in dealing with the issue you discuss on the blog is your credibility. You are an expert because you dealt with this issue and overcame it or somehow got to a better point regarding it. Your blog can be a place where you share your story and share insight, coping strategies, and inspiration related to what you cover.
Nobody has to give you permission to share your story. You don’t have to be a celebrity. You don’t have to be wealthy in monetary terms. You don’t have to know everything there is to know about your topic. You are enough, just as you are. You have lived it. Now tell it. Someone else needs to hear it.
Monica Carter Tagore inspires and empowers people to see their true value. She does this in several ways, including the Chase Your Star newsletter and providing mentoring to help people tell their stories in book format. Get her free recording, “How to tell your story — and get noticed,” when you sign up for the Chase Your Star newsletter at http://monicacartertagore.com/newsletter
Thanks to Monica for sharing parts of her own inspirational story with us! If you are holding your story hostage, consider the importance of telling your story and be that rainbow. Will see y’all back here in December:)
Happy Monday, women of courage! Today I’ve been contemplating on my service work and my thoughts centered on my beginnings. Most of you who follow my work on the blogs or gained insights from my freelancewriting.com articles and magazine and newspaper columns, know a bit about me. But, you don’t truly know, Clara, the woman or Clara, the advocate and activist, who feels called to champion the voice of the “underdog.” Many of my beloved readers and social media connections do not know how I came to live a life of authenticity. You don’t know the path to my becoming, unless you’ve read my first attempt to share my WHY with you through my 2011 self published e-book, A Life Toward Authenticity-My Authentic Woman Story.
Today, I’m sharing excerpts of my story captured in my Authentic Woman eBook. I have to warn you, some of the earlier writings are raw, but it’s most definitely for real:)
“Hello, my name is Clara and this is my story.” Enjoy!
“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’ Actually, who are we not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are meant to shine, as children do…and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
In 2000 I was caught up in a whirlwind of doubts, confusion, longing and disgust. I wasn’t satisfied with the way my life had turned out. I had married and divorced. Bore two wonderful children who would become my reasons for being present. Yet, there was a recurring and nagging wariness and feelings of unworthiness in my chest.
I didn’t feel like I was living up to my full potential. Why couldn’t I be happy with my children, family, friends and career? Why did I feel as if I was tossed in a sea of choppy currents screaming out for a life-preserver and no one could hear…or care? I wasn’t living. Just co-existing. Why, then, wasn’t I living up to my full potential and becoming the woman I’d always wanted to know?
I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was on a journey to “becoming”. And I was fighting this change every step of the way. What exactly do I mean by “on a journey to becoming”? Simply stated, I was on a mission of change, and I was afraid of the unknown. I was reluctant to reawaken to my true self, denying the path I was destined to embark upon – the road leading to self-awareness and total authenticity.
To celebrate my journey toward authenticity, I created Authentic Woman, a motivational and personal development website that’s all about “The Woman” in 2008. I felt compelled to offer a platform for our voices, where we share life experiences, inclusive of our hopes, our dreams, our passions and desires.
Authentic Woman is the manifestation of my passion and ultimate purpose, which is to embrace, explore, empower and reawaken our woman “truth.” Reading these women’s stories inspired me to write this personal side of Clara. I’ve lived and learned from life experiences, and now I’m living my passion and purpose. I wasn’t always so clear on how this “becoming” thing worked. So, let me share with you how I became the woman I’d always wanted to know!
“With age comes wisdom.” I’m sure you’ve all heard this quotation before. But how many of us truly believe it? As we age, we enter into this solstice of life where we’re either embracing or denying the obvious. We are more aware of our intuitive selves and sense of knowing. We’re no longer hungry for the acceptance of others. We are “becoming” comfortable in our own skin. We are “becoming” truth seekers. It is our journey to authenticity.
“Walk out on faith. Don’t let fear of the unknown stand in your way.”
Do You Know Where You Are Going To?
In 1975 the movie Mahogany, starring Ms. Diana Ross, graced big screens all across the country. Ms. Ross played Tracy, a young African-American woman set on following her dreams to break into the modeling and fashion business. As she’s headed out from her hometown to follow her dreams on a seemingly slow-moving train, the theme song of Mahogany, written by Michael Masser and Gerald Goffin and produced by Berry Gordy starts by asking the questions:
“Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? Do you know?” The most daunting line of the song with which I could totally relate was “Do you get what you’re hoping for when you look around and there’s no open door. What are you hoping for? Do you know?”
I never intended to become a well-known designer, actress or household name when I set out to follow my dreams at the age of 18. There were two things I definitely knew at that age: First, I didn’t want to attend the local colleges or universities like most of my friends. Secondly, I had no intention of settling down and marrying one of the local clerks at the country deli or living on the outskirts of the small town where you saw miles of dirt roads, overgrown riverbeds and beaten down old men, who spent their entire lives working for the man, in the white house on the hill ,with the immaculate green lawn protected by a herd of shrewd Dalmatians.
My single thought at the time was to come up from that environment where Jim Crow remained law, and start living the life I knew was out there…
To read more of my compelling life journey to authenticity, go to my author’s page at https://www.amazon.com/author/clarafreeman and download a copy to read at your leisure. And stay tuned for my new book, Unleash Your Pearls~Empowering Women Voices, awaiting publisher’s release date.
I end every post by reminding you guys to always treat yourself special. Well, I’m taking my own advice and will be away for a few weeks. Hope to see you right back here in June. If you’d like to reach me, send a message via my contact page.
Have a fun and safe summer everyone!
Good Morning Women of Purpose!
Did anyone watch Oprah’s new BELIEF series? I did and I found it very interesting in regards to other worlds cultural and spiritual traditions. The young women in India who become nuns, had to pull their hair out by hand and give up all family connections. Ten year old African boys who would become men, participated in a ritual that had them jumping from the top of a tree onto the muddy ground below… seeing one young boy landing on his head was terrifying. He bravely endured, but I’m sure it was to save face.
I said a serious prayer for him because he appeared to land hard. Those boys participating in such dangerous feats are unsettling. Now, viewing water as a healing resource was more to my understanding. Anyhow, I digress from today’s post, so let’s go there.
Relax, Release and Trust the Process
I don’t know about you guys, but I’m so thankful for those days; those small moments in time and that food for thought we often chew on, swallow and digest in our lives as a reminder that,” It’s not all about you!” These last weeks, I’ve had to take a step back and take a page from that spirit book, which basically tells us to relax, release and trust the process.
For those of you who might not have read or heard it from friends who follow my blogs, I was recently awarded a $2500 book publishing contract from a Publishing Company that empowers women writers. This particular contract was for African-American women writers seeking a publisher for their books. I completed my self-help book for women, maybe a week before reading about the scholarship and initially, I wasn’t going to apply (pride) but my spirit led intuition pulled me from bed to email the publisher for direction.
My concern after being awarded the scholarship and thanking God for my blessing, was that in my haste to share the good news, along with the title of my book to the world, I might have gave cause for some unscrupulous someone to come along and claim the title before the book’s release! Although there’s a story behind Unleash Your Pearls, I can’t forget that my quotes & phrases have appeared in other places without my author permission.
These human concerns led me to want to complete the five book coaching conference calls that are a stipulation of the scholarship. I emailed available dates to the publisher, in an effort to rush the process. Naw, didn’t happen!
Happily, I can report that my first conference call is this week. I’m looking forward to the process of learning more about the publishing end of this writing thing. I’m also stepping back from trying to control the book publishing process, in order to get a great book out to all of you!
I have to trust that God got the wheel and try hard to stay in my lane, because Unleash Your Pearls has a publisher who will do the necessary maintenance required to make the book ready to market, promote and sell as the professional work all of you deserve.
I’m so excited! All of my hard work will now be in book form for every authentic woman living and learning from life experiences. You can keep this valuable resource to becoming the woman you’ve always wanted to know within arms reach.
Unleash Your Pearl is a personal testament of my journey to authentic awareness to spirit and purpose. Other visionaries share their stories on how every woman (and man) deserves to live their one life better. There are correspondence from women asking questions about the change occurring in their lives, as well as millennials coming to terms with having to make choices that will affect their families.. Heck, there’s even a man/woman discussion on relationships that is very revealing for both sexes. I am blown away by how our whole life existence is a learning process. And, whether you’re in your 20’s and 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and beyond, this book offers some authentic nuggets for everyone on how to live this one awesome life. We’re never too young or too old to learn new ways,wisdom and insights that leads to living life better and not bitter.
In preparing my book for publication, I’ve had to let go of ego and trust that my book needs and desires will come to fruition.Trust and believe that an important component to living a spiritually authentic life is to relax, release and trust the process!
Always believe and trust in yourself and in your abilities to be of positive service to others seeking the right path to living an authentic life. Also, trust that your own life of service will flourish in blessings and abundance.