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Great Leaders: What Makes Them Special?

“Today a reader tomorrow a leader” Margaret Fuller

Great Leaders What Makes Them Special?

Many who should be leaders are afraid to step up and become what they know in the bosoms of their existence, is their supernatural calling. It’s so much easier to remain followers. I don’t believe leaders are born, I think they are made to see things differently than others. I think leaders ‘see’ what others can’t even fathom.

What makes an effective, trusted and respected leader? What makes them special? There are the obvious dynamics of course; learning from life experiences, discipline, a strong work ethic and a core belief system. These core values stem from parental upbringing, environmental and behavioral observations and institutional learning, some of which are carried into adulthood.I learned morals, empathy, perseverance, faith and compassion from my mother. I learned to appreciate value of hard work and the almighty dollar from my dad. Daddy used to say as long as you work, you’re never broke. If daddy was alive today, he’d get a loving adult daughter rebuttal on that one:) We all have an affinity for learning from our parents who are our first teachers and more often than not, we tend to accept these lessons as truth.

As leaders age, there’s a tendency to not go along with the status quo as easily. Where the degree or certification is viewed as a prerequisite to great leadership advantages by most, those who lead know that book sense and common sense are not always interchangeable and so they might consider an alternative and forge ahead to discover their own truths. If you’re a team player who is a follower in medicine, technology, the arts or any area of your living, and you carry an overwhelming desire to lead others in your heart; a desire to making something from nothing or make an impact in the lives of others, now is the time to believe in yourself and do what you feel you were created to do. Step away from the sameness and do that great thing you’ve always wanted to do. Trust and believe someone is waiting for you to lead the charge.

Leadership Qualities:

When you practice the golden rule of treating people the way you want to be treated, in business and in your personal life, you earn trust and belief from those looking to be a part of a winning team. To be an effective leader you must leave your ego at the door. Leaders don’t use their power to lord over or to belittle others. A true leader doesn’t use their power to abuse or demean; but to uplift, encourage and invoke creative solutions to challenging problems.

Don’t be aggressive in your leadership or quick to anger. Instead practice assertive decorum and lead by example. Don’t mix business with pleasure or give your employees ammunition to disrespect your leadership. Steve Harvey wrote a scolding and scorching letter to his employees recently, berating them for approaching him, whenever. Perhaps if he’d initiated a policy and procedure manual upon hiring, mandated to all of his employees, they might have gotten the memo that Mr. Harvey wasn’t their ‘ride and die’ but their employer. You show people how you want to be treated.

The more you know, the more you grow in the role of a leader. The visionaries, motivators and innovators in leadership positions are often led by their desire to see greatness in others and are willing to teach others what they have learned. If you have been sabotaging your leadership abilities because you are afraid of failure or even success in your new role, now’s the time to stop the madness of negativity and fear. Step out on faith and keep going. If you fail, try again and if you fail again, keep trying until you’ve given it all you got. Nothing hurts worse than never giving ‘U’ a chance.

Sometimes You Don’t Want The Responsibility

I spent over 30 years in a leadership position during my nursing career. There were many times I felt that I didn’t want the headache. Through trial and error of coping and strategizing on how to handle people attitudes and sensibilities, I got better at what I called my lot in life. I settled into my calling and people took notice. Over the years, I’ve spoken to patients and their family members, women and male co-workers seeking advice or a listening ear. I became someone I never asked to become…mentor, advisor, confidant, encourager and motivator.

I’ve always been sensitive to the needs of children, not only because I’m a mother, but because children are innocent and look to adults for their protection and unconditional love. I’ve advocated for the safety of children on the school grounds and in gang infested neighborhoods… I’ve sat in awe of the elder wisdom as I’ve bathed them and dressed their wounds, sat at their bedside to hear their stories of happiness and regret. I’ve heard about their childhoods, marriages and their love for nature and music. I’ve heard the unspoken yearning for human connection in their aged voices. No woman is an island and so we have to love ourselves enough. We have to choose our battles wisely, where our voices reach the furthest.

Women of a certain age were the catalyst for Authentic Woman in 2008. I wanted a place where women could share their stories and speak their truths. It was a mirror to the reflection of our younger selves who were quickly growing into our older selves. In writing, talking , hosting and connecting with women, the dynamic of the woman voice changed. Women from all over the world, every ethnicity and every age stop by here, either to read, comment, or grab an email address to share concerns and seek help in making an informed decision. I’ve welcomed every voice!

I don’t want to change my blog’s message. I wanted to extend the longevity of Authentic Woman and so I wrote Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices as an invitation to all women who want to share in the woman journey. This is a book from authentic life lessons, interactions with other women voices and from my heart on life challenges and its triumphs. I hope you consider reading Unleash Your Pearls, while I’m away. Contact me at-unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com. My Authentic Woman Story eBook is available at https://www.amazon.com/author/clarafreeman. Do pick up a copy as a preamble to Unleash Your Pearls.

I send blessings to all of you and hope that you live your happy. I look forward to reading your comments and encourage you on your mission journey. I know you will make a positive impact in the minds and hearts of others.Because my journey has brought me to other avenues to explore in the phase of my living, I will be taking an indefinite leave from my blogs. I won’t leave social media entirely, but , for now, this is my final posting at Authentic Woman. My goal is to continue to do work that brings awareness and help empower the voiceless.

May you all find your happy

Clara B, Freeman

xoxo

 

Regular Women Can Become Champions

f04da2db1122143adac462 When I was growing up under the hostile environment of a Southern Jim Crow in the 50s and 60s, my one thought was that someday I would leave that place and find my own place in the world where I would use my voice to speak for the “underdog”; those people who were treated unfairly and dismissed in the world as being insignificant and inconsequential. What I’ve realized after over 4 decades of helping others bring awareness to the importance of stepping up and speaking out against injustice in any shape, form or fashion, is this:

The freedom to” be” war rages on as children are crying in the streets for a safe place to run and play in many underprivileged inner city neighborhoods. They are forgotten by the economic greed system of government that robs them of their schools, access to healthy foods and healthcare and steals the joy in their souls as they watch the helpless frustration on the faces of their parents who become victimized by media reports, workplace minimum wage and police brutality. Women voices are so critically needed in the fray of what truth living is truly about in our cities and on our Urban streets.

Marcie Hill of http://www.marciewrites.com/, spends a lot of time on the south-side of Chicago, hosting workshops for school children and their parents on the ins and outs of social media use that’s so important in the world of technology.  She also shares insights that the media omits in television news about positive happenings in the inner city via her www.goshorty.net blog.

Vau’ve Anais Davis of http://officialanaispr.com/, offers her services and volunteers with several urban organizations to make a difference in the lives of others. She works with a West-side Chicago restaurant that cooks delicious and nutritious meals on a daily basis to help feed the hungry on Chicago streets. The restaurant “TurkeyChop”, located at 3506 West Chicago Ave, is open Monday through Sunday noon to 3pm. Interested parties please call (773) 384-2500 for information on hot healthy meals.

I became aware of Nina Thomas Pendleton of Nina Motivates and the work she does with children after a Facebook connect. Nina is a young woman who uses her faith in her business as CEO of T.O.U.C.H. where her inspirational ministry “Touching Others Using Christ Help” is the motivation behind the classes  she teaches on self-esteem, love for God-given gifts and self value. I’m really encouraged with the work Nina does with teens and preteens, as well as adults. Motivating others to recognize and embrace their gifts is the recurring and positive message behind Nina Motivates U.

There are many women whose voices make a difference in the lives of others. These women are ordinary folks with families, struggles and challenges. Women with a fire in their souls that burns with an innate passion and purpose that continues to push them forward in their mission to accomplishing small steps leading to doing great things. Everyone working hard to make a positive change deserves to be recognized for their contributions to society’s people.

My purpose at Authentic Woman is to bring women voices to the forefront and allow them to shine in their passion and purpose, inspire other women to step up and step out of fear and sameness and step into the power and glory of living out their legacy. We can use our voices for positives in the world, create change and provide a living for ourselves and our families while servicing others. It’s time to become champion of your purpose, walk in your truths and pay it forward in authenticity and gratitude.

Women of authenticity,you don’t have to be famous to be a champion.

Authentic women continue to treat yourself special.