What People Must Do To Repair Broken~Trust

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“The greatness of America is the right to protest for right” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Happy Monday, women warriors! Today marks the celebration and 88th birthday of our nation’s most iconic civil rights leader, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Dr. King and other distinguished leaders such as John Lewis, Jessie Jackson, Rev.  Ralph Abernathy, Andrew Young, Harry Belafonte and a host of civil rights activists spent their lives fighting against segregation, Jim Crow Laws and racial hate and injustice in their efforts to end discrimination and racial unrest among America’s people.  So, in honor of this great man and all that he stood for, I wonder what better way to honor the legacy of Dr. King and the men and women who fought and died for the rights of all, than to proclaim our rights as citizens of The United States Of America… use our platform and our voices to shine a spotlight on injustice, bring awareness and encourage communication and accountability with the common goal of implementing a resurgence of the change that will bring about a greater, inclusive America for all? It’s good that more celebs are using their platforms to help demand accountability and bring positive change. The great news is you don’t have to be famous to make your voice heard and make a difference.

Racism and race division is old news, worn like a ragged pair of socks that keeps turning up in the rinse and repeat wash cycle.  If we want a better world for ourselves, our families and future generations, we have to stand together and fight the great fight to overturn racism and hatred like the great leaders of days gone by. Racism is alive and thriving, as evident by all of this social media race division brought to light during a contingent new election process where a man who literally speaks from a tongue laced with acidic narratives and race baiting innuendoes will become America’s next president, bringing within his administration, people whose backgrounds are questionable and perplexing to the masses.

On this day going forward, let us focus on repairing the ills of a daunting 2016, deemed as the year of distrust, tragedy and protest  by implementing personal, spiritual and professional growth through communication, conversation and understanding . Although we can never forget the loss of life in the past year, let’s work on forgiving those who trespass against us, embrace those who stand with us and refuse to back down from those who wrongly oppose us. Let’s look within ourselves to find that moral compass that governs our humanity where we show empathy and compassion for our fellow-man/woman.

In order for the world to heal and repair America’s broken people, we must forgive and keep standing. “When they go low, we go high.”  First lady Michelle Obama.

These are my thoughts, written in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King’s birthday on what people must do in this environment of division and distrust, in order to repair, grow and heal in 2017. I invite your input.

Keep Ascending!

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Sometimes We Listen-

Happy Monday… women of authenticity!

This speak touched my spirit and makes it yearn for better ‘humane’ days. I’m delighted to share this authentic woman voice with all of you.

IF WE WERE ALL BORN BLIND – Amanyia

 

Are You Brave Enough?

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You have to be brave to serve others. Are you brave enough to answer to your calling? When faced with the opinions and doubts of others, sometimes we waver in our calling. We tend to think we’re not the one to do what needs to be done; to make a difference in the life of another human being. It’s not easy being brave in the storm of critics, non believers, naysayers, haters and your own acts of self-sabotage.

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You know when you’re not embracing/using your gifts or living from your authentic truths and soul purpose. You can’t hide from the person you are meant to be. In this one physical life we have here on this one physical plane, we have to step up, be brave and accept God’s grace through his blessing us. Maya Angelou said we must be a rainbow in another person’s cloud. My mission is clear. I am a rainbow and I’m willing to use my gifts to help you rise up and walk into your purpose and possibility.

Time is wasting and you’re wasting time. Don’t worry or manifest the negatives that rear up to hinder you in your purpose. Acknowledge it, feel it and let it go… Be brave and return to the center where your true “self” abides; Reclaim your power and carry on with your assignment. Share your gifts. Be authentic in sharing your truths.

When you know who you are and whose you are, you will seek to serve others. Don’t allow your purpose to fester from the wounds of apathy, fear, and doubt. Start now, in some small way to use what the Good Lord gave you. Be brave, step up and do the work you’ve been called to do. Remember, you’re never alone on your journey to living and serving others from an authentic and favored life.

When you began to use your gifts to motivate, empower, educate and inspire others to be the best person they can ever hope to become, you will be blessed exponentially!

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Treat yourself special!

Defining Your Authentic “Truth”

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Since 2004, I’ve been on a journey of becoming “me”. In essence, I’m redefining, rediscovering and reaffirming the woman I am. It’s what Kathryn Brehony, the clinical psychotherapist and author of Awakening At Midlife, calls a ” reawakening.” It’s like you’ve been sleepwalking through your life in your 20s, 30s and even 40s, to wake up one day and discover there’s so much more to the person you are.

At 20, truth be told, I could care less about the meaning of authenticity, or some journey to rediscovering my truth. my purpose and meaning that God had planned for my life. It was about experiencing all of the wonders that being out in the world had to offer. At 30 something, it was about putting my wants & needs aside as I concentrated on children, spouse, family,friends, and maintaining a sense of job security.

In my mid-40s  recently divorced and an empty-nester, I found myself literally asking “Is this all there is for me”? “”Is this who I am?” I was in search of finding my truth and thus, the journey began to becoming me. I’m up early to respond to some questions I find people have as they make their way to this blog , I’m assuming, in search of defining their “authenticity”. Folks search for:

1. The meaning of authenticity

2.How to become an authentic woman

3.The authentic woman experience…

First of all, there’s no special class for discovering your personal ‘truth.’ Your JOURNEY ultimately becomes your reawakening from living and learning from your own life experiences. By being present in the moments of life. Experiencing and surviving the good, bad and ugly of  life and by knowing that you are spiritual, yet, you’re  living a human existence, you will come to know your purpose. You will find your meaning and discover your  passion along the way.

Webster defines authenticity as worthy of acceptance or belief. Not imagining, false, or, imitation. You become genuine, bona fide, like the maple in maple syrup (webster again) and the brand name instead of generic (my analogy)) anyway you slice it, when you embark upon your journey, you’ll know it and embrace it wholeheartedly.

P.S. I’m off to breakfast in a couple of hours with like-minded friends. We’re celebrating the fact that we don’t have to work today and we can gorge ourselves, just because! Feel free to share your journey to truth.

Blessing,

Clara.

Lessons In Humility…

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Weeding through some works from back in the days of fashioning myself a “poet” as I’ve mentioned in previous posts:) I found a Christmas card given to me by another poet. After reading the card, I became really humbled by it and I’ll tell you why in a bit. The card led me to make a list of all the things I’m humbled by. Here goes: 

1 Childbirth

2. Death. Transitioning into death. The face of grief…

3. GOD

4.Innocence/Trust children have which can sometimes lead to abuse &

 their violent demise.

5. Wisdom of the elderly

6. Mother Nature- her beauty & her devastation

7. Praise

And then, there are the folks who have done & continue to do great things, without an ulterior motive. The card that brought this post about came from a young poet who was new to the city. I’d invited her to come to a poetry reading & share her work. She did and her work was fantastic! The card reads, in part:

“I was lost in a world without words. I had forgotten them. You invited me into your world of words I had forgotten and helped me find myself.”

Women of authencity, what are you humbled by?

A Woman’s Intuition

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Recently LeBron James, the basketball-er, MVP and Olympic Gold Medalist decided to sign with Miami, leaving his fans in his hometown of  Cleveland Ohio angry and disappointed. He stated in a post- deciding interview with Robin Roberts of GMA , how Warren Buffet’s great advice helped him make a decision when it came to choosing the team he would prefer to play with after his contract with the Cleveland Cavaliers ended.

That great advice from one of the richest men in the world? “Follow your gut.”

For men, the natural flow of things can be liken to a gut feeling, whereas for women, it’s usually based upon an innate knowing of a thing which allows us to “follow our first mind” in some of our important decision making. What is it about this intuitive & unexplained sensory perception that has led us in many “right” directions?

Back when I fashioned myself a “poet”. I was given the descriptive honor of being labeled an “intuitive” poet by one fan of my work. At the time I liken the meaning to someone who has a certain “feel” for their work. I’d always written from an emotional standpoint anyway when it came to my poems, so, it just felt right to go with the title at the time.

Intuition, in my mind, is something closely akin to having “faith”. It is the acceptance of thing unseen,yet clearly witnessed by the human eye.  After all, the phrase, “a woman’s intuition” wasn’t uttered for naught… I’m sort of digging the whole intuitive process. It has led me to more joys than disappointments on my journey to authenticity. I know that I will continue to “follow my gut” . It is what it is.

How about you women on a journey to self-awareness? Do you embrace your intuitive self?

Do share your experiences.

And always treat yourself special:)

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When Women Are Hurting…

When women experience pain, who can they trust enough to share their deepest feelings of hurt, confusion and questions of uncertainty? Those of us who can find a caring spouse, a family member/friend or,significant other is truly fortunate to have someone there they can rely on and who “have their back”…  

I’ve found in most cases in talks with women experiencing pain, oftentimes, they seek out their peers/women who have been down the road to experience that heartbreak or loss. It’s akin to having a kindred spirit to confide in.

 How many of us are relunctant to actually talk to our spouses about our pain in hopes they’d actually ‘get it?’ Not to down play the significant role men play in the circle of showing compassion, it’s just sometimes when women hurt, it’s a woman thing. 

I have a friend who is hurting. She is in pain. It’s a given that she has a supportive husband, but, she’s asking questions out of frustration, fear and sadness. When a woman speaks to another woman about her pain, her truth sometimes becomes “theirs”. Women who have experienced pain and survived the journey to recovery often feels the pain of another and can share constructive healing points because they’ve been there and can empathize.

Hoping you’re there when called upon to listen, share, encourage, sympathize and show empathy when a woman/women in your circle are hurting…

P.S. Off to Florida for a bit of family reconnection and R&R. Have a great and purpose filled week!

Woman Heal Thyself…

I’m a big fan of the Rev. T.D. Jakes, due in part to his understanding about women and their troubles, but also because of his uncanny need for gentle admonishments. You see, he has the insight of knowing that women can become envious, jealous and downright vindictive toward other women. Sometimes we need to get real quiet within ourselves when faced with competition from another woman in regards to how we perceive them. We might compare their success, friendships, popularity or man magnet to what we deem as a void in our own lives. We become obsessed with “keeping up with the Joneses, or perhaps jane”

I love the fact that we’re individuals, ALL. If God wanted us to look, act, be cloned , then, lo and behold, it would be done…The reality?  We’re not the same. Our differences are what makes us unique women. As a truth seeker, I believe in the beauty of sisterhood. I’m not always an agreeable person, but, I’m a person of character. I’m not selfish, but yes, I can be “self” ish. It’s ok to follow your own path in life and not live to follow the path others might have wanted you to, in order to make their lives meaningful.   

If you are a woman on the journey to self-discovery and authenicity, you will put aside all those old wounds steeped in jealousy & envy. You will crave the path leading  to your own truth… Know that you are enough and  heal thyself…

When Good Things Happen…

We tend to want to shout it from the rooftops! Let the world know about our good fortune. That’s a good thing in and of itself. It’s natural to want to share in our newfound fortune of happiness. But, with life comes struggle. Like the song goes, “I Beg Your Pardon, I Never Promised You A Rose Garden.  Along With The Sunshine, There’s Gotta Be A Little Rain Sometime!”  Let’s say, “life Never Promised You A Rose Garden”.  So, how do we adapt to trouble, or better yet, how do we handle the letdowns? Many women tend to close themselves off from the problem. Keep secrets buried in boxes hidden atop shelves in their bedroom closets. In other words, We are too embarrassed to share our plight with other women, or, even concerned members of a loving family.

I’m writing this post today to let women know… It’s ok to share your hurts & disappointments with folks you can trust and who have your best interests at heart. Don’t feel you ‘re up to facing a difficult situation alone? Seek out counsel. Find that ‘someone’ who can offer sage advice or just listen…You’ll feel better, think clearer and have the strength to fight another day. 

Women of authenticity…Are you prepared to share your struggles?

Becoming Better-Not Bitter After A Breakup

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Far too many women after a breakup tend to become angry, resentful ,revengeful and depressed.They start to blame themselves and wonder what they could have done to make the relationship work. Know this: It takes 2 to tango! If you’ve been in an on again-off again love affair with a man for years on end, then, you need to reassess your attraction for such self- inflicted abuse. Women I’ve listened to/spoken with over the years seem to put themselves down in a relationship filled with constant struggle and discord They reflect how, maybe they’re not good, smart, pretty, or skinny enough, and that’s why he does what he does… One acquaintance put it this way” I’ve known him since I was sixteen. He was my first love.” EXCUSE ME!?!

Almost 40 and you’re saying this because? Women have got to start taking responsibility for their own happiness! If a man walks all over you in the name of love, does that mean that’s all you’re worth? When a man wants out of the relationship for whatever reason, women, you need to stop with the blame game.Sure, breakups are painful. But there are choices we can make. He made a choice, now why can’t you?

Do we become long-suffering shells of our former selves, or, do we allow ourselves to “feel” the pain for a while and let it go? It’s a choice women have to make. When women began the journey to rediscovery, love will find them again. What  makes you happy?  Take the time needed to find your answers . Join  a  community group of like minded women and focus upon your passions. What are you dreams? We all have them. Live your life by being true to yourself. Trust that when you’re in the throes of reawakening & finding your authentic self, men of character will come! 

Women who are nursing a broken heart from a once loving relationship or,non loving, shouldn’t waste another negative emotion on what was. Love yourself by becoming better; Not bitter…