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“Today a reader tomorrow a leader” Margaret Fuller

Great Leaders What Makes Them Special?

Many who should be leaders are afraid to step up and become what they know in the bosoms of their existence, is their supernatural calling. It’s so much easier to remain followers. I don’t believe leaders are born, I think they are made to see things differently than others. I think leaders ‘see’ what others can’t even fathom.

What makes an effective, trusted and respected leader? What makes them special? There are the obvious dynamics of course; learning from life experiences, discipline, a strong work ethic and a core belief system. These core values stem from parental upbringing, environmental and behavioral observations and institutional learning, some of which are carried into adulthood.I learned morals, empathy, perseverance, faith and compassion from my mother. I learned to appreciate value of hard work and the almighty dollar from my dad. Daddy used to say as long as you work, you’re never broke. If daddy was alive today, he’d get a loving adult daughter rebuttal on that one:) We all have an affinity for learning from our parents who are our first teachers and more often than not, we tend to accept these lessons as truth.

As leaders age, there’s a tendency to not go along with the status quo as easily. Where the degree or certification is viewed as a prerequisite to great leadership advantages, these people who would be leaders know book sense and common sense are not always interchangeable and so they might consider an alternative and forge ahead to discover their own truths. If you’re a team player who is a follower in medicine, technology, the arts or any area of your living, and you carry an overwhelming desire to lead others in your heart; a desire to making something from nothing or make an impact in the lives of others, now is the time to believe in yourself and do what you feel you were created to do. Step away from the sameness and do that great thing you’ve always wanted to do. Trust and believe someone is waiting for you to lead the charge.

Leadership Qualities:

When you practice the golden rule of treating people the way you want to be treated, in business and in your personal life, you earn trust and belief from those looking to be a part of a winning team. To be an effective leader you must leave your ego at the door. Leaders don’t use their power to lord over or to belittle others. A true leader doesn’t use their power to abuse or demean; but to uplift, encourage and invoke creative solutions to challenging problems.

Don’t be aggressive in your leadership or quick to anger. Instead practice assertive decorum and lead by example. Don’t mix business with pleasure or give your employees ammunition to disrespect your leadership. Steve Harvey wrote a scolding and scorching letter to his employees recently, berating them for approaching him, whenever. Perhaps if he’d initiated a policy and procedure manual upon hiring, mandated to all of his employees, they might have gotten the memo that Mr. Harvey wasn’t their ‘ride and die’ but their employer. You show people how you want to be treated.

The more you know, the more you grow in the role of a leader. The visionaries, motivators and innovators in leadership positions are often led by their desire to see greatness in others and are willing to teach others what they have learned. If you have been sabotaging your leadership abilities because you are afraid of failure or even success in your new role, now’s the time to stop the madness of negativity and fear. Step out on faith and keep going. If you fail, try again and if you fail again, keep trying until you’ve given it all you got. Nothing hurts worse than never giving ‘U’ a chance.

Sometimes You Don’t Want The Responsibility

I spent over 30 years in a leadership position during my nursing career. There were many times I felt that I didn’t want the headache. Through trial and error of coping and strategizing on how to handle people attitudes and sensibilities, I got better at what I called my lot in life. I settled into my calling and people took notice. Over the years, I’ve spoken to patients and their family members, women and male co-workers seeking advice or a listening ear. I became someone I never asked to become…mentor, advisor, confidant, encourager and motivator.

I’ve always been sensitive to the needs of children, not only because I’m a mother, but because children are innocent and look to adults for their protection and unconditional love. I’ve advocated for the safety of children on the school grounds and in gang infested neighborhoods… I’ve sat in awe of the elder wisdom as I’ve bathed them and dressed their wounds, sat at their bedside to hear their stories of happiness and regret. I’ve heard about their childhoods, marriages and their love for nature and music. I’ve heard the unspoken yearning for human connection in their aged voices. No woman is an island and so we have to love ourselves enough. We have to choose our battles wisely, where our voices reach the furthest.

Women of a certain age were the catalyst for Authentic Woman in 2008. I wanted a place where women could share their stories and speak their truths. It was a mirror to the reflection of our younger selves who were quickly growing into our older selves. In writing, talking , hosting and connecting with women, the dynamic of the woman voice changed. Women from all over the world, every ethnicity and every age stop by here, either to read, comment, or grab an email address to share concerns and seek help in making an informed decision. I’ve welcomed every voice!

I don’t want to change my blog’s message. I wanted to extend the longevity of Authentic Woman and so I wrote Unleash Your Pearls Empowering Women’s Voices as an invitation to all women who want to share in the woman journey. This is a book from authentic life lessons, interactions with other women voices and from my heart on life challenges and its triumphs. I hope you consider reading Unleash Your Pearls, while I’m away. Contact me at-unleashyourpearls@yahoo.com. My story eBook is available at https://www.amazon.com/author/clarafreeman

I send blessings to all of you and hope that you live your happy. I look forward to reading your comments and encourage you on your mission journey. I know you will make a positive impact in the minds and hearts of others.Because my journey has brought me to other avenues to explore in the phase of my living, I will be taking an indefinite leave from my blogs. I won’t leave social media entirely, but , for now, this is my final posting at Authentic Woman. My goal is to continue to do work that brings awareness and help empower the voiceless.

May you all find your happy

Clara B, Freeman

xoxo

 


Good Morning Women of Purpose! I am so happy to bring ‘from the experts’ back for you all today with a wonderful message of inspiration from Carl Mathis: Motivation speaker: Author of “Pursuing Your Purpose – How To Discover God’s Revelation For Your Life

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Finding God’s Will In This World

In the midst of today’s busy world where everyone, especially the generation of millennials now finding their way around this world, it can be quite difficult to figure out God’s will. What can one do in line with what God wants to do? This can be a very difficult question to answer-pursuing your purpose that is, hopefully, in sync with God’s purpose for you.
Some thoughts on God’s will and purpose
Finding God’s will entails a certain uncertainty. One can never be totally sure that one is following God’s will-but there can certainly be signs that one is on the right track. Signs can be seen when you reflect, through prayer, on your decisions. God nudges you in the right direction, helping you to discern which path to take. How can one know if it is a sign from God or not? Just like any good relationship, where on person knows the other person well, so it is with God: if you nurture your relationship with Him and are familiar with his voice and presence in your life, it will make it a lot easier for you to know when it is Him leading you or when it is simply other voices telling you where to go.
Reading Scripture also helps a person understand how God works in people’s lives. While the stories there may seem old, outdated, or almost in the realm of the seemingly impossible, they still hold some insight as to how God intercedes and interacts with certain individuals.
Partnering with or accompanying others who are also trying to find God’s will in their lives will also help. As in any endeavor, support from friends and family will always help you persevere and reach your goal rather than if you were doing it alone without any help. A community that will also help you reflect on and understand what has been happening in your life will ultimately also help you find God’s will more in your everyday, as we can sometimes have a “blind spot” or have a tendency to get stuck-other people now come in and offer a fresh perspective and new ways of looking at what’s been happening in your life.
Lastly, a sign that you are following God’s will is a certain peace that comes with your decision, as if God were confirming your decision by gifting you the feeling of peace from the Holy Spirit.
These are just some ways of trying to find God’s will in your life. It is definitely not easy, nor always certain, nor glamorous. Some are called by God to places that are way beyond their comfort zone. However, take heart that this God does not call only those who are seemingly qualified or fit for what he wants, it is he who equips and strengthens those he calls-as long as we are ready to respond and say “Here I am”
Know as well that there is something greater at work in your life, and that nursing this relationship with God will allow you to be more attuned to what is happening and where you are being called. Christians believe that this world was not made by a random God, but rather by a gracious loving God for all of creation, and so we can see this God reflected therein and get to know him more through this world.
Finding your purpose in life brings a sense of meaning as well: you do things not simply because you want to, but because ultimately, you are working for something bigger, sometimes even bigger than yourself, your ambitions, and your goals. It keeps you waking up and going each morning, and when the going gets tough, a gentle reminder is sometimes all it takes to remind you of why you are doing something, despite its difficulty and stress. At the end of the day, it is all worth it.

 

p.txtAbout the Author
Carl Mathis, a preacher, (Holy Ghost Tabernacle Church in Cutler Bay FL) and an author, with the gift of influencing and deeply touching the hearts and souls of those who need to hear spiritual truth in practical terms. Mathis now imparts a profound message for all who desire to be spiritually fortified and remain goal–oriented. In this little guide to an abundant work, home, and spiritual life, he instructs that the sum of your life is in the choices that you make. If you choose wisely, your life will be rich and rewarding. If you choose with a plan in your head and God in your heart, you will never lose. Carl Mathis doesn’t want you to settle for less than you are capable of or less than what God wants for you. Mathis teaches ageless biblical principles that God reveals the keys to personal success each and every moment of every day. He doesn’t make excuses for his struggles—he uses them as stepping-stones to get to higher levels in his God-ordained destiny. Carl Mathis doesn’t know what it means to give up. Overcoming the obstacles of losing a spouse, having to raise three successful boys on his own and manage to write several books, he never managed to find the time to make excuses. Through his triumph over personal troubles, he strives to not only inspire and uplift, but to encourage people worldwide to find their purpose and begin walking in it. For booking info or to find out more about Carl Mathis, visit www.carlmathisbooks.com or email info@carlmathisbooks.com.

Carl’s social media sites:

Twitter http://twitter.com/#!/carlmathis
Facebook  http://www.facebook.com/CarlMathisPage
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Linkedin http://www.linkedin.com/pub/carl-mathis/13/b38/396
Blog http://christianwordsofencouragment.blogspot.com/

Don’t y’all feel the fire?! I will be away during the holiday of giving thanks and will see all of you in December. Peace~ Blessings~ and Abundance. Remember to always treat yourselves special.
Thanks Carl!

Happy Monday, warrior women of essence. I hope you all have a great week fueled by passion, compassion, service and an abundance of blessings! This journey to wholeness was never promised to be a bed of roses. We are spiritual beings living a human existence and so we are in constant need of spiritual replenishing. I don’t know how you do it, but I do it by Bible, through the stillness of mother nature, prayer, practice, meditation, readings and daily doses of motivation by way of my inbox from spiritual teachers around the globe.

the_alchemist1I remember bypassing the purchase of The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, years ago, for whatever reason. After hearing him speak as a guest on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday, this book is definitely on my to-do book list.:)  I wanted to share some “heart” quotes from The Alchemist  author that resonated with me. If you have read this inspirational guide, please share your experiences in the comments section with us as well.

QUOTES:

When you want something all the universe will conspire to help you get it.

You’re always guided to meet the right person at the right moment-

God is going to ask you only one question; did you love enough?

Find the courage to follow your dreams, regardless of your fears.

I can give you ten thousand explanations of why we’re here but there is no good explanation- it is a mystery.

“I’m not ready is just an excuse”

You only learn the language of the world by making mistakes

Look at everything like you’re seeing it for the first time and you learn.

Oprah Winfrey confessed her fear of not fulfilling what she knows is her supreme potential.

Paulo Coelho’s response was  “Don’t give in to your fears, if you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.”

Always listen to your heart even when it scares you.

Do you have the courage to listen to your heart?

Blessings…

 


Good Morning! There’s a slight overcast from the rain last night, which makes for a glorious Monday. No, I’m not saying this because my arthritis meds just kicked in:) Authentic Woman is about finding and connecting to our true selves; becoming self-aware in purpose and intent. It’s a journey leading to spiritual alignment with ones’ passion and purpose. It’s how we choose to walk in the world, unafraid to be who we are and loving the person we’ve become.

Living an authentic lifestyle doesn’t make you immune to living life experiences. It makes you happy, appreciative and grateful that you walk in your truths with integrity, spirit and boldness.  Be bold in your purpose and live your life-out loud!

Please join me in welcoming Barbara Garro, author of  Grow Yourself A Life You’ll Love to Authentic Woman with a special post from her new book on finding the life you love:thbarbara

Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love

 When you understand why you are the way you are, you’ll be kinder

to yourself.  When you understand others better, you’ll like them more and

be less critical.  This will help them like you more and make your life

more harmonious.  Think about how much better your life would be if you got

along easier with the love of your life, your parents, children, siblings,

other relatives, friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

        You will learn that the reasons you do the things you do come from

seeds planted in your non-conscious or subconscious mind

when you were very small. These seeds or beliefs, presumptions,

assumptions, and events that drive your behavior often remain hidden from

your conscious awareness in your subconscious mind.  Grow Yourself a Life

You’ll Love motivates you to look at the seeds planted long ago to decide

if they are still valid for you. For example, if you come from parents who

believed money is the root of all evil, can you see how you could have a

tough time with prosperity coming into your life?        

         Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love is a workbook divided into three

parts. The first part contains exercises to help you discover information

in your subconscious mind that can explain your behavior, fears, worries,

and automatic or default responses. The second part provides exercises to

help you understand what makes you and those in your life do the things

they do.  The third part includes an exercise to get you in touch with your

spirit and recognize that humans are spiritual as well as physical and

mental beings.

        The exercises are designed to take you back through your life to

root out belief-driven programming, now outdated and invalid, that causes

you problems.

         From Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love, you’ll also gain new,

exciting and useful information about the dynamics of personality,

thinking styles, communication, and attitudes that make you and others act

in a particular way.

        Understanding reduces the pain in relationships.  With fewer

misunderstandings, you’ll have increased quality time together, more

laughs, and greater happiness than you’ve ever known.

        You deserve happiness.  Believe that with all your heart and soul.

If you’re not happy, you owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to

bring more happiness into your life.  If your life is a dead life walking,

this may sound impossible to you.  But I want you to know that I believe

you can do it.  And somewhere inside you believe it too, or you wouldn’t be

reading this book.

        It’s never too late to live happily ever after.  Other people have

happy lives.  You can too, once you lighten your load of anger, fear,

worry, envy, jealousy, hate, insecurity, and depression.

         Let Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love help you push out of your

boxes, climb over your fences and live, really live, a life you’ll love.

You deserve a life you’ll love living and I hope with all my heart and soul

that you never stop trying new things until you have it.

          Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love is a work/study book that can help

you forever keep on growing yourself a life you love living day after day.

Namaste,

Blessings from Author/Artist/Speaker Barbara Garro, MA

President, Electric Envisions, Inc.

Telephone: 1-518-587-9999

Web Sites: http://www.BarbaraGarro.com

                  http://www.ElectricEnvisions.com

thb. book

 



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