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Good morning, women of purpose! I’m happy to reconnect with all of your amazing voices. I appreciate, honor and heart you all! Today, I bring you an empowering, authentic and trans-formative message from one of the most influential life coaches in the universe. Please welcome back to Authentic Woman, my authentic camaraderie in arms, Ms. Pauline Haynes!

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PAST, PRESENT, FUTURE

Every one of us is unique and totally irreplaceable. We have all had connections with people, places, things, and experiences. No matter how much we try, each individual has his or her own take on the story or stories, even if two people were present at the same occasion/occurrence.

 

The word authenticity has been so seemingly over-used, but it is a beautiful word that aptly describes who we are. It helps to differentiate you from me and vice versa.

Or, as in “I am the Walrus,” the popular Beatles song

 

“I am he as you are he as you are me

And we are all together.”

 

We are together, and we are different. Singular. Unique. One of a kind gem. No two alike. Our claim to authenticity!

 

As I celebrate a birthday, embarking on another chapter of my life, I am flooded with memories. Some clear, some lacking in details, while others flow like a montage of unconnected experiences in my life.

 

Certainly I am more than pleased to be at the ripe age of maturity (some would say old). In fact it wasn’t so long ago that I thought of this age (my age) as old. Old is a state of mind, a way of being. My chronological age is keeping tabs on my psychological, mental, physical and emotional age, and the winner is a draw, depending on the day.

 

That is why I have to dig deeper to find, honor, respect and appreciate the essence of this woman. This authentic being – me!

 

There is such a rush as I write those words. It makes me humble to be alive. Right here, right now. Yes. I have stories to tell!

 

I may share some of the memories, but this is not strictly meandering down memory lane. There are some memories I still prefer to keep to myself (and will). If you’ve lived as long as I have, you better have some experiences you want to keep”mum.”

 

What surfaces as I consider my life, is not the details of my teenage and young adulthood, but the occurrences on a worldwide scale and its impact on us right now.

 

My personal life does not have worldwide interest or impact. I  have no claim to fame. Sharing some of my personal experiences have  (in tiny ways) touched some, and maybe as you read this, you also may feel or experience some slight impact.

 

One does not have to be speaking before an audience, or command the ears/attention of millions to have impact. Presence is enough. Integrity and intentionality. The impact is what you choose to do with that presence.

 

I have developed a certain grace and humility, even though that can also exhibit anger and outrage (depending on the circumstances). The humility allows me to connect to my breath, which allows me to connect to my body, which connects me to my thoughts, my surroundings, my behavior;  and so the ripple continues. The connection of me to the earth, to you and on and on.

 

When I am in my presence, and I am aware, I can have an impact. I speak differently. I hear differently. I respond differently. I behave differently. I am in reverence of all that is alive, true, perfect and sacred. I respect me more and I respect you more.

 

I honor life! I am authentic.

 

There are some “firsts” for me that are memorable in a nostalgic way, while others are purely sentimental. Neither is good or bad. They simply are.

 

In bringing two children into this world, they are both firsts. My first-born was a boy, and my second born was a girl. The first. The only. They are memorable and nostalgic all rolled into a bundle of everlasting love.

 

Seeing the birth of my first grand child was overwhelming, exciting, magnificent and awe-inspiring. Giving birth is not the same as seeing a birth.

 

I remember the first time I was kissed by a boy, It was uneventful, and I’m not sure why I remember it. The memory is vague, but present.

 

I remember the first time I set foot in England. It was cold, dreary, foggy, and it was a new experience, coupled with the old. I was reunited with my mother. I also remember the first time I arrived in San Francisco. It reminded me of the TV series “The Streets of San Francisco.” I was awed by how large everything was. The Golden Gate bridge was luminous through the fog, and it made me smile.

 

I could go on for a while, but these are my memories, and I appreciate your indulgence.

 

We are currently embroiled in political bantering, narcissism, grandstanding, holier-than-thou-ism, deplorable and despicable words and behavior ism. Lies and half-truths, and more lies. This is a part of the present as the two-party system pits Hilary Rodham Clinton (D) and Donald John Trump (R) against each other. They vie for the hearts, votes and respect of the American people – to become the next president of the United States.

 

The shenanigans are not pretty.

 

This time in politics, is following on the historical footsteps of the creation of these United States. The true colors of hatred and dissent are more visible and pronounced than the caring and concern that individuals who gave their lives in the Civil Rights movement fought for. This country came about through some unsavory actions.

 

The turning backwards is giving us the opportunity to examine our souls and our intentions. Perhaps it’s even allowing us to get to know the real history of this country and its people.

 

Singularly, authentically and collectively – serious examination is called for.

 

Barak Husain Obama has been the first elected black president of the United States, and his eight-year tenure has not been an easy one. President Obama and first lady Michele Obama have governed with dignity, grace under fire, and have endured the insults, slurs, disrespect and  every imaginable obstacle that has been thrown their way. They have certainly not done everything right.

 

As two people with their hearts rooted in our African culture, they have not only survived, they are thriving! I share Langston Hughes’ “Lament for Dark Peoples” which gives a little perspective on the foregoing. It is as pertinent now, as when it was penned by Mr Hughes years ago:

 

I was a red man one time,

But the white men came.

I was a black man, too,

But the white men came.

They drove me out of the forest.

They took me away from the jungles.

I lost my trees.

I lost my silver moons.

Now they’ve caged me

In the circus of civilization.

Now I herd with the many —

Caged in the circus of civilization.

 

My hope is that the Peoples of every culture, every nation will have a life that is worthy of our history, or sacrifices, our dignity, our caring. Our unique strengths and weaknesses have meaning and make a difference when we think and behave collectively. It is the only thing that will save our humanity.

 

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Good Morning Women of Purpose! I am so happy to bring ‘from the experts’ back for you all today with a wonderful message of inspiration from Carl Mathis: Motivation speaker: Author of “Pursuing Your Purpose – How To Discover God’s Revelation For Your Life

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Finding God’s Will In This World

In the midst of today’s busy world where everyone, especially the generation of millennials now finding their way around this world, it can be quite difficult to figure out God’s will. What can one do in line with what God wants to do? This can be a very difficult question to answer-pursuing your purpose that is, hopefully, in sync with God’s purpose for you.
Some thoughts on God’s will and purpose
Finding God’s will entails a certain uncertainty. One can never be totally sure that one is following God’s will-but there can certainly be signs that one is on the right track. Signs can be seen when you reflect, through prayer, on your decisions. God nudges you in the right direction, helping you to discern which path to take. How can one know if it is a sign from God or not? Just like any good relationship, where on person knows the other person well, so it is with God: if you nurture your relationship with Him and are familiar with his voice and presence in your life, it will make it a lot easier for you to know when it is Him leading you or when it is simply other voices telling you where to go.
Reading Scripture also helps a person understand how God works in people’s lives. While the stories there may seem old, outdated, or almost in the realm of the seemingly impossible, they still hold some insight as to how God intercedes and interacts with certain individuals.
Partnering with or accompanying others who are also trying to find God’s will in their lives will also help. As in any endeavor, support from friends and family will always help you persevere and reach your goal rather than if you were doing it alone without any help. A community that will also help you reflect on and understand what has been happening in your life will ultimately also help you find God’s will more in your everyday, as we can sometimes have a “blind spot” or have a tendency to get stuck-other people now come in and offer a fresh perspective and new ways of looking at what’s been happening in your life.
Lastly, a sign that you are following God’s will is a certain peace that comes with your decision, as if God were confirming your decision by gifting you the feeling of peace from the Holy Spirit.
These are just some ways of trying to find God’s will in your life. It is definitely not easy, nor always certain, nor glamorous. Some are called by God to places that are way beyond their comfort zone. However, take heart that this God does not call only those who are seemingly qualified or fit for what he wants, it is he who equips and strengthens those he calls-as long as we are ready to respond and say “Here I am”
Know as well that there is something greater at work in your life, and that nursing this relationship with God will allow you to be more attuned to what is happening and where you are being called. Christians believe that this world was not made by a random God, but rather by a gracious loving God for all of creation, and so we can see this God reflected therein and get to know him more through this world.
Finding your purpose in life brings a sense of meaning as well: you do things not simply because you want to, but because ultimately, you are working for something bigger, sometimes even bigger than yourself, your ambitions, and your goals. It keeps you waking up and going each morning, and when the going gets tough, a gentle reminder is sometimes all it takes to remind you of why you are doing something, despite its difficulty and stress. At the end of the day, it is all worth it.

 

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Carl Mathis, a preacher, (Holy Ghost Tabernacle Church in Cutler Bay FL) and an author, with the gift of influencing and deeply touching the hearts and souls of those who need to hear spiritual truth in practical terms. Mathis now imparts a profound message for all who desire to be spiritually fortified and remain goal–oriented. In this little guide to an abundant work, home, and spiritual life, he instructs that the sum of your life is in the choices that you make. If you choose wisely, your life will be rich and rewarding. If you choose with a plan in your head and God in your heart, you will never lose. Carl Mathis doesn’t want you to settle for less than you are capable of or less than what God wants for you. Mathis teaches ageless biblical principles that God reveals the keys to personal success each and every moment of every day. He doesn’t make excuses for his struggles—he uses them as stepping-stones to get to higher levels in his God-ordained destiny. Carl Mathis doesn’t know what it means to give up. Overcoming the obstacles of losing a spouse, having to raise three successful boys on his own and manage to write several books, he never managed to find the time to make excuses. Through his triumph over personal troubles, he strives to not only inspire and uplift, but to encourage people worldwide to find their purpose and begin walking in it. For booking info or to find out more about Carl Mathis, visit www.carlmathisbooks.com or email info@carlmathisbooks.com.

Carl’s social media sites:

Twitter http://twitter.com/#!/carlmathis
Facebook  http://www.facebook.com/CarlMathisPage
Youtube  http://www.youtube.com/mrcarlmathis
Linkedin http://www.linkedin.com/pub/carl-mathis/13/b38/396
Blog http://christianwordsofencouragment.blogspot.com/

Don’t y’all feel the fire?! I will be away during the holiday of giving thanks and will see all of you in December. Peace~ Blessings~ and Abundance. Remember to always treat yourselves special.
Thanks Carl!

Good Morning! There’s a slight overcast from the rain last night, which makes for a glorious Monday. No, I’m not saying this because my arthritis meds just kicked in:) Authentic Woman is about finding and connecting to our true selves; becoming self-aware in purpose and intent. It’s a journey leading to spiritual alignment with ones’ passion and purpose. It’s how we choose to walk in the world, unafraid to be who we are and loving the person we’ve become.

Living an authentic lifestyle doesn’t make you immune to living life experiences. It makes you happy, appreciative and grateful that you walk in your truths with integrity, spirit and boldness.  Be bold in your purpose and live your life-out loud!

Please join me in welcoming Barbara Garro, author of  Grow Yourself A Life You’ll Love to Authentic Woman with a special post from her new book on finding the life you love:thbarbara

Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love

 When you understand why you are the way you are, you’ll be kinder

to yourself.  When you understand others better, you’ll like them more and

be less critical.  This will help them like you more and make your life

more harmonious.  Think about how much better your life would be if you got

along easier with the love of your life, your parents, children, siblings,

other relatives, friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

        You will learn that the reasons you do the things you do come from

seeds planted in your non-conscious or subconscious mind

when you were very small. These seeds or beliefs, presumptions,

assumptions, and events that drive your behavior often remain hidden from

your conscious awareness in your subconscious mind.  Grow Yourself a Life

You’ll Love motivates you to look at the seeds planted long ago to decide

if they are still valid for you. For example, if you come from parents who

believed money is the root of all evil, can you see how you could have a

tough time with prosperity coming into your life?        

         Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love is a workbook divided into three

parts. The first part contains exercises to help you discover information

in your subconscious mind that can explain your behavior, fears, worries,

and automatic or default responses. The second part provides exercises to

help you understand what makes you and those in your life do the things

they do.  The third part includes an exercise to get you in touch with your

spirit and recognize that humans are spiritual as well as physical and

mental beings.

        The exercises are designed to take you back through your life to

root out belief-driven programming, now outdated and invalid, that causes

you problems.

         From Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love, you’ll also gain new,

exciting and useful information about the dynamics of personality,

thinking styles, communication, and attitudes that make you and others act

in a particular way.

        Understanding reduces the pain in relationships.  With fewer

misunderstandings, you’ll have increased quality time together, more

laughs, and greater happiness than you’ve ever known.

        You deserve happiness.  Believe that with all your heart and soul.

If you’re not happy, you owe it to yourself to do whatever it takes to

bring more happiness into your life.  If your life is a dead life walking,

this may sound impossible to you.  But I want you to know that I believe

you can do it.  And somewhere inside you believe it too, or you wouldn’t be

reading this book.

        It’s never too late to live happily ever after.  Other people have

happy lives.  You can too, once you lighten your load of anger, fear,

worry, envy, jealousy, hate, insecurity, and depression.

         Let Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love help you push out of your

boxes, climb over your fences and live, really live, a life you’ll love.

You deserve a life you’ll love living and I hope with all my heart and soul

that you never stop trying new things until you have it.

          Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love is a work/study book that can help

you forever keep on growing yourself a life you love living day after day.

Namaste,

Blessings from Author/Artist/Speaker Barbara Garro, MA

President, Electric Envisions, Inc.

Telephone: 1-518-587-9999

Web Sites: http://www.BarbaraGarro.com

                  http://www.ElectricEnvisions.com

thb. book

 


Yes, we are a women empowerment site and there’s no way we’re letting the men take all of the credit, but Shawn Anderson motivational messages are an exception and just what we need to hear when our well runs dry:) Join Authentic Woman in welcoming today’s “From The Experts” guest, the award winning motivational speaker and author, Shawn Anderson.

 

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LOS ANGELES, Calif., March 25, 2014 – Wake-up alarm sounds. Hit snooze button. Steal ten minutes more sleep. Groan. Get coffee. Wake kids. Take shower. Get dressed. Yell at kids. Drive to work. Slump into chair. Check email. Check Facebook. Meet deadlines. Waste time chatting. Watch clock. Check Facebook again. Sneak out early. Wait in traffic. Get groceries. Chaperone kids. Shout about homework. Make dinner. Watch TV. Go to bed. Repeat.

Of course, there is no way this sounds familiar. Right? Maybe to our friends, but never to us. Not to worry…this is for them. (The friends.)

To help those “friends” who are stuck in a life rut, motivational guru Shawn Anderson shares three quick rut-escaping tips you can provide to those who need emergency advice and are living the same day over…and over…and over:

TIP #1: Quit living in Mediocreland.

Stuck on mediocrity? Well, look in the mirror at the person responsible. It’s you. You created your average-ness…and you can UN-create it, too. Want out of the rut? Quit making excuses, quit pointing fingers, and quit waiting for a miracle to fly you out of Mediocreland. If you’re ever going to leave the world of average, you need to start creating the changes you seek. Cast a vision. Create a plan. Take massive action. Passive residents are not allowed to fly.

TIP #2: Don’t expect an overnight miracle.

It’s impossible to go from “ice-cold” (in the rut) to “red hot” (out of the rut) overnight. Massive change just doesn’t happen that way.  Don’t expect it. Do expect, though, that you can grow to “red-hot” if you hold yourself accountable to take one step a day towards the changes you want in your life. Single steps daily add up to big changes eventually.

TIP #3: Don’t wait for perfect.

Waiting for the perfect scenario to unfold before making changes? Your reasons to wait before taking action might sound good in your head now. The problem is that five years down the road those same reasons will probably still exist…and you’ll probably still be in a rut. Life is too short to wait for the stars to fall into perfect alignment before we take life action. Live and live now. Otherwise, waiting too long for the right risk-taking moment eventually leads to paralyzing fear…which leads to complacency…which leads to “I don’t care” acceptance.

The author of six motivational books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Shawn Anderson lives and breathes all things related to “going the extra mile” in order to live a life we love. Last year, Anderson’s Extra Mile America organization led 444 cities to declare 11/1/13 as “Extra Mile Day”… a day recognizing the capacity we each have to create positive change for ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we “go the extra mile.”

“My feeling is ‘we get one life’ so why ever choose to live it with anything less than our deepest passion and most ardent dedication? We create the life we live…one way or another,” Anderson says.

 

Shawn Anderson is a six-time author, keynote speaker and motivational success coach. His “go the extra mile” philosophy and ability to produce results have been praised by political leaders, world record holders and media outlets across the world. His book titles include A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose. For more information, visit www.ShawnAnderson.com.



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